11 March

Minnie And Chicken

by Jon Katz
On The Porch
On The Porch

A waitress in a Salem restaurant approached me about some feral kittens she had in a box on her front porch. Would I want one? I was having lunch with Maria at the time – we were just becoming friends – and I said I was looking for a barn cat to keep Mother, my first barn cat, company. That night we went to her home out in the country and met Minnie, who was a feral kitten and so shy she wouldn’t show herself for months. We had to leave food in the barn for her and leave. Gradually, she got curious about us, and is everybody’s pal. For those first few months, she lived in the barn near the chicken roost and when I looked out the window, I would see her sitting out in the sun with the chickens, dozing or just hanging out.

The chickens stay away from cats and dogs, but not Minnie. They always find her and join her in her nap and sun worshiping sessions. I suspect Minnie thinks she is a chicken, and I am always amazed and fascinated by the relationships animals form. Somehow, the chickens socialized her.

11 March

Jenna’s Kids

by Jon Katz
Life And Death
Life And Death

My friend Jenna Woginrich’s goat Bonita had two kids this weekend and Jenna’s living room looks like something out of Grimm’s Fairy Tales. Three baby goats, a husky, a border collie and three people squeezed into her living room, and she was quite surprised when I said it was an unusual scene. It isn’t for her, Jenna is into more things than I can list, a whirlwind of energy, imagination, creativity and life and death. There is always something being born at Cold Antler Farm, always something being sent to slaughter, animals crammed into every available space, goat cheese and milk, bread eggs and fiddles. I don’t know anyone remotely like Janna.

It seems to suit her, she has the energy for it. Maria loves to handle baby animals and we had some sweet nurturing time as the dogs and goats raced around in circles. The baby goats are for sale. Jenna’s in it for the milk and cheese. You can check them out on her website. Jenna just finished her fiddling weekend workshop and is preparing for Tae Kwon Do combat and falconry training.

11 March

Sometimes, You Must Speak To Me

by Jon Katz
Speaking To Me
Speaking To Me

I have been writing about and living in the digital age for several decades, and it is a fascinating time for me. Great change, new challenges, cultural revolutions. I welcome creative change, it inspires and defines me.

Lately, I’ve found myself insisting that people speak to me.  I’m fighting for it. And I’m surprised how strongly I feel about it. I told my daughter that it was great to get texts and e-mails and news feeds from her Facebook Page, but I needed to hear her voice fairly often, so that I could get a sense of how she is, how she is doing. So that I know her and she knows me. She was surprised, I could tell, it is not something she needs, she does not need to hear my voice very often. This is hurtful, although I know she means no harm.

My editor rarely speaks to me on the phone any longer, she sends me books edited on multi-colored software. I e-mail her and say I need to speak to you sometimes, I need to hear what you really liked and what you really didn’t, not to just read blue and red text marks. I want to hear your voice.  She agrees, but is also surprised. She doesn’t need to talk to me anymore, we e-mail and message each other. I used to talk to my editor often, it was one of the most important relationships in my life. She is a great editor, but has no time to know about my life.  I have a wonderful agent, but we rarely speak on the phone. Sometimes, I need to talk to him. But I often feel that’s strange, and I am just needy. I rush to get off the phone, I don’t want to bother him, take up too much real time.

I told my friend Jenna yesterday that people who only read one another’s blogs are not friends, they are digital connections, avatars. Friends, I said,  actually speak to one another. She laughed. Jenna texts.  I told another friend the same day – she was upset that I unsubscribed to her blog, I am getting too many messages to read, that this meant our relationship was over – that a blog subscription is not a friendship, does not signify closeness any more than reading a print magazines makes you a friend of the writer. I said we had not spoken in more than a year. She did not respond to me.

I tell my students in the Hubbard Hall Writer’s Workshop to call me if they need to talk about their work. They sometimes do, but mostly post messages on the workshop’s Facebook Page. They respect my time, but I can’t convince them to call me if they have a problem. I don’t think I can change that. I feel the same way about my  bank, although I never speak to them any longer, unless it’s technical support or security. I need to talk to a human being when my computer acts up, not a message board. I’ve never been good learning in that kind of way.  I find myself saying more and more often, sometimes you need to speak to me.

I have a financial issue to resolve with someone I value, someone I think highly of. I can’t resolve it with her because I never speak to her, we exchange texts and cryptic e-mails. I need to look her in the eyes and ask her some questions and listen to her answers. I’m not sure I ever will. We all understand that no government agency or business wants to talk to human beings anymore, it is so much cheaper online. When I do insist on speaking to someone, they invariably remind me that I can do the same thing online. I am putting them out, not being efficient, holding back progress.

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I am not needy, nor am I grumpy about new technology. I used new technologies all of the time, in all of my work, from computing to video to social media. I value it and appreciate it. But I will continue to fight to talk to people. I am not needy, not out of date. Hearing someone’s voice is important. It is the essence of human connection, the only way to know someone, to love and trust them, to be a friend or lover. Nuance is important, so is intonation and range. I’m not talking about the loss of land line telephones, but the essence of being a human being, a person with emotions, needs, shared experience. Voices are our identity, our signatures, our transmissions to one another. I hear fewer voices all the time.

There is a coldness and disconnection to parts of my life, growing parts, yet I feel like a crazy man ranting into the ether, like I am slipping into an Orwellian universe, lots of messages everywhere, no human beings with feelings. Sometimes my life feels lonely to me. I am a person who loves being alone, I need and love it.  Maria and I talk to one another all of the time. But the outside world is slipping away from me, and it is a very sad thing to me. I love talking to people, it nourishes and informs me.

But one by one, the people who used to talk to me don’t, and I miss them, I sometimes want to cry out into the universe, please, please, talk to me.  Facebook notifications and likes can’t do that for me, neither can text messaging. But I see that the idea of talking to people is receding. I understand that this a struggle I can only lose, people seem willing to give it up, like privacy and local business. I have never heard a politician or civic or business leader argue that we need to talk to each other more. Just think of the things they fight over all day, but the idea that we have stopped speaking to one another is not on anybody’s list of critical issues.

As often as I tell people, please, sometimes I need to speak with you, no one has yet said, oh, you are right, I feel that way too. I can tell they are just appeasing me, and on day I will probably give it up. Sometimes they oblige me, sometimes they don’t, but I feel myself slip farther and farther away  into my own curious and isolated feeling, from the essence of being human, one human voice listening to another and responding. Even though I sense I will lose this struggle, I can’t give it up. I have to keep trying for now. Sometimes, you must speak to me.

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