Fear and sadness both have a bad name in our culture, and I can grasp that. Awhile back, when I was struggling especially hard with both, several doctors suggested that I medicate myself, and I decided, after a lot of thinking, to say not. I have learned more from fear and sadness than from any other thing in my life. They have given me strength and confidence, helped me to grow up, opened me up to love and friendship, forced me to face the worst truths about myself, as well as the best things.

I have dealt with fear all of my life, and I expect to deal with it to the end of my life. But I have learned a lot about myself, and seen things I believe I would not have seen had I chosen medication. I am not suggesting that anybody else make the same choice – these are always personal decisions. But fear and pain can be valuable. They bring wisdom. I am glad I did not choose to push them too far aside.