I’m coming to understand that to deal well with fear, you have to rebuild your mind a bit. Work at changing what you think, how you think. Hard work. Every day. Small steps. There is no magic want, no moment of epiphany, just the slogging of determination, self-examination and a willingness to change.

Fear is not rational and you cannot argue with it.But this is the toughest part of the process, I think: becoming aware of what you think and how you think. Changing the story. The brain manages fear and scans for danger because it is trying to keep us safe. Have to put the brain to better use. I am aware of all the fearful scanning my mind has done over the years and my work now is changing that, being conscious of what I think. Like anything else, it takes a will and a lot of hard work. Fear worked for me for a long time. It doesn’t work for me anymore.