The past is the past and the present is your life. So live it. Our wedding – our lives – are about choosing life, each day, every time you can. There is no perfect life, but there is a good life, I think – examined, determined, and in search of love, fulfillment and connection. Not always possible, never easy. There are lots of people lined up to give good reasons why a fulfilled life is not feasible or possible. And there are those will will encourage you. Sometimes, when the light is good and I have the right lens, and I am paying attention, the lights and images of the world shout out to me, and I think I am going mad. I am mad, I am sure.

But more and more, I talk back to them. Here I am. Here I am. I’m coming to you.