31 January

Belly Dancing Day. Cold, Quiet And Calm. Bedlam Farm Journal, Wednesday, January 31, 2024

by Jon Katz

It hasn’t rained for two days, which is suitable for the water table, messing up our plumbing and worrying me. This is happening nationwide as the rain has been heavy for the past few months.  We’re just taking it one day at a time.

Maria is off to her  Belly Dancing Class in Bennington, Vermont. I’m eager tonight to read the new Dennis Lehane novel, Small Mercies, about Boston’s wrenching desegregation struggles in the 1970s. I worked as an editor at the Boston Globe during that awful time; we all had bulletproof windows installed in the newsroom, and the paper was hated for supporting the desegregation orders from a federal judge.

Lehane’s novel “Small Mercies” takes place in the tumultuous months after a 1974 order to integrate the city’s schools through forced busing. I never saw hatred, racism, and class warfare more severe than in Boston, not even when I went to Mississippi as a reporter.

I like Lehane’s writing very much, and I’m eager to see how he portrays that awful period. I’m putting aside the water troubles and the cost, sitting by a fire with some tea and plunging into the book. The book is a mystery, but it says a lot about the country’s twisted history with race.

Ron DeSantis may need to ban it.

Maria and I have been discussing our plans to sell some books on E-Bay to raise money for the anticipated flood, ground, and septic repair in the Spring when the ground thaws. Maria decided to drop the eBay idea and sell some of the books on her blog. I’d link to the sales. Several people suggested this, suggesting  I’m an idiot for not thinking of it.

I’m sure they were right, but this is Maria’s program, and my job is supporting it. She’s wicked smart and knows how to do this. I’m not competent in this way.

It’s a good thing to do, water crisis or not. We read many new books, and they are in big piles and all in excellent shape.

We’ve always given these books away, but it would be wise for us to start saving. We can take out a loan if necessary, as many people do with this trouble. It’s time to get them out of the house. It’s not a crisis, as I like to say; it’s just life. We’ll be fine. Blog readers know us, and many of them are passionate book readers. We have a lot of terrific books and they are all in great shape. It’s nice to think of them going to our readers. The house is getting too cluttered anyway. Maria will figure it out; she doesn’t need peckerheads telling her what to do.

I think this is what character is made of – how we handle difficulty, not how we avoid it.

Lulu and Fanny get their feeder now. They are not into sharing.

Zip showing up for the afternoon meeting, he was out hunting all day. Weather means nothing to him. He is always on time for our meetings; today’s lasted about 15 minutes. I love his stare. He is a photographer’s delight.

Maria’s twine sculpture is getting bigger. She adds to the sculpture every day when she feeds the animals.

The Imperious Hens, out eating birdseed beneath the feeder. I love the color when they all stand together.

This is my daily landscape picture, it is never the same two days in a row.

Lulu knows how to bend me to her will; I can never resist her plea for an alfalfa cookie.

17 September

Two Worlds Come Together In A Beautiful Way. Maria’s Belly Dancing Group Comes To The Mansion

by Jon Katz

I had the touching and beautiful experience of seeing two worlds important to Maria (and me) together in the loveliest and most meaningful way today at the Mansion Assisted Care Facility.

Maria is a member of the Bennington Beledi Dancers, a belly dancing group composed of devoted friends who have danced together for years.

This dancing has been informative for Maria; she and the other dancers support one another in essential ways. Julz Irons, her teacher, has patiently and lovingly taught Maria – who thought she could never dance – to dance beautifully and grow steadily.

I’m posting two videos I took at the Mansion today; the first one is 17 minutes long and can be seen through this YouTube link. Because belly dancing is blocked in some countries, I can’t post it directly on my blog, but you can see it here.

You can see the second video – seven minutes long – by clicking here.

Maria asked the group if they would perform at the Mansion, and Maria and four of the dancers agreed and came to the Mansion today. I volunteered to take videos of the dancing. It was beautiful, uplifting, and inspiring.

During the pandemic, the dancing group struggled to get new members for a few years; new dancers are showing up and seeking to learn this beautiful and ancient art, the first known dancers ever done by women.

I’ve never seen the residents love anything as much as they loved the dancing today, and Maria was nearly in tears at the idea of bringing these two worlds in her life together.

She loves teaching art at the Mansion, and they love her. Bringing these worlds together meant a great deal to her.

I could stand up for 45 minutes to take the video, which was encouraging. I had to crash this afternoon to make up for it.

Julz, a chef, businesswoman, blogger, and belly dancer for 20 years, talked about belly dancing and showed the residents how to make some moves. They ate it up. Irons’ love of the dance is powerful and infectious.

Seeing this coming together was a gift; the residents were beside themselves with admiration, appreciation, and fun.

Belly Dancing has opened my eyes – and hers – to Maria’s inner strength and devotion, an affirmation dance for women, not men, and the power of a great teacher to change a life. I’ve been told that many women tried to join the group but were discouraged by their husbands, boyfriends, and fathers.

That is changing. The Belidi dancing dancers are strong and proud.

In dancing, Maria learned who she was, not who she was told, and taught who she was. She has grown steadily from there.

I hope you enjoy the videos as much as I enjoyed taking them and seeing this connection. When I woke up from my rest, Maria and I sat and watched them twice. We might do it again tonight. I could watch them a hundred times. Maybe I will.

I’m grateful to know these remarkable women, who are true friends and supporters of one another. They touched something deep in the Mansion residents; I’ll be thinking about it for a long time.

See the first video here.

See the second video here.

 

 

17 September

Sunday Morning, September 17, 2023. Purity: And Belly Dancing Today At The Mansion

by Jon Katz

Maria and her fellow belly dancers are performing at the Mansion Assisted Care Facility this morning; I will take a video of the performance and bring Zinnia so she can visit her pals there. I’m taking the video with my Leica mirrorless camera on a tripod.

I’ll put it up on the blog later today, hopefully.

I took one flower photo this morning; it caught my eye. I call it Purity. It’s a Begonia, and it reminds me of an angel. I’m fond of Begonias; they are the purest flowers I see. I also had my morning visit with Zip; we are bonding well with one another.

I’m drawn to this cat. He has a lot of personality and a soft heart.

After the dancing performance, we’ll see Judy Page and get more fall flowers if I’m okay.

I love seeing Maria dance, and she loves performing with the other dancers.

5 July

Belly Dancing Performance Tonight. I’ve Been Asked Not To Go

by Jon Katz

Maria headed out for a live belly dancing performance outside the North Bennington Public Library this afternoon. It’s brutally hot and humid – a heat advisory is in effect. I ordered two air conditioners for the downstairs, and we’ll get to use them.

I’m told that I should take heat advisories seriously and try to do that. Maria asked me several times not to go there’s no heating and the dancing will be outside on the library lawn. I made a fuss, but she held firm, and I saw that my going would cause her to worry.

It’s hard for me to concede that I really should be standing outside for a couple of hours in this heat, I have diabetes and heart disease, and Im learning this Spring that I am not immune from either. Tomorrow is my annual cardiology exam, and I don’t need to cause any trouble.

I went outside to take some flower photos and I was soaked in sweat after five minutes. Authenticity is what I say to other people and what I tell myself. I need to stay home.

I hate not going to see her perform the dancing, which she loves so much, but it’s just something I need to accept. There will be other performances. I was tickled to see her in makeup again; it always startles me; it is so not Maria.

I like that smile and can’t wait to see the video tonight.

25 June

My Belly Dancing Star, Off To Dance Today. Go Girl.

by Jon Katz

I took this photo of Maria just before she went off to Bennington, Vt. to march in the annual Pride Parade and then perform with her fellow Bedeli Belly Dancers as a part of the Pride celebration. I will join her, march in the parade if I’m allowed, and watch her and her fellow dancers – she loves every one of them – perform.

Being Maria, she was nervous about getting dressed this morning, belly dancing is not a simple form, and everything you wear has a meaning of one kind or another. She has been collecting her costume for months and will perform again soon.

I’ll be there also. Belly dancing has come to mean the world to Maria; I believe it began the process wherein she discovered how remarkable she is. She didn’t know; her fellow dancers had supported her from the first day and s kept her skill.

It takes years to learn how to belly dance, a female affirmation dance that is the oldest recorded dance in the world. I’m excited to see her and proud of her. In the dancing clothes, she looked even more radiant than usual.

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